So, if you wait around for anything to happen, it will be a complete waste of your time. It is important to understand that most (if not all) narcissists don’t want to change. For you to leave them is too much of a narcissistic injury for the narcissist to deal with. Like I said above, the only person allowed to end the relationship is the narcissist. Finding the courage to get out of the relationship is often difficult though and it will take a lot of perseverance and guts to do so. In case a relationship is already developed, remember, it is never too late to get out of it.
The attraction between an empath and a narcissist may begin to fade. The more the empath learns about the true personality of the narcissist, the less likely the empath is to develop or stay in a relationship. They have the choice to stay a pawn in the game of the narcissist, the victim, or find a way to get out of it – easier said than done – a narcissist has no qualms leaving you, but you can never leave them. The empath has the choice to blame the destructive relationship on another person, continue to become the victim or to love themselves enough so they can break away. The empath will feel insecure and unloved. It is virtually impossible to build a relationship with a narcissist. What’s more, they are also very manipulative and charismatic and turn their negativity towards other people.Īn empath should understand at this point that the relationship is going nowhere. Trying to communicate with a narcissist is useless since they don’t try to heal and help anyone else. The only thing that an empath can do in order to find themselves again and heal is to sever the ties with the narcissistic abuser. Instead of trying to break away from the connection with the narcissist, they will try their best to become validated – which will never happen. They will focus on the abuse and trauma that they are enduring. They will be consumed with the pain they are feeling. Over time the empath will forget about all things that are related to the positive aspect of life. The narcissist views the kindness and empathy of the empath as weakness, stupidity even. The empath will always show that she/he is unhappy and this will be enough to make the narcissist take more control, more power in order to validate their worth. The moment the narcissist senses there is a change in the empath, and that the empath is wounded, this will be enough for them to keep the empath down. (It’s impossible, however, for the empath to become a total narcissist – this happens in childhood) The longer the two are together though, the more toxic the attraction between an empath and a narcissist. Over time the empath may even begin to take on narcissistic traits themselves because they also become wounded. This also means that the empath will usually become the victim. This means that the more affection and love the empath gives – the stronger the narcissist becomes. They try to rise above others and exercise control. They try to sense what others are thinking, intending and feeling while forgetting that others might be dishonest and not have their best interests at heart. Empaths often put themselves in other people’s shoes. Narcissists often draw the life force and soul right out of people that are closest to them.Īs empaths don’t fully understand that not everyone is like them, this dynamic often debilitates and confuses them. That’s just the start of the toxic attraction between an empath and a narci ssist.
The empath may form bonds with the narcissist so that they can try and take away whatever pain the narcissist is experiencing. If the empath does not know what is going on and what they are doing, they are going to suffer because they will feel the pain of the narcissist again and again as they are unable to protect themselves. They take on and experience the pain of others. They have the ability to sense if a person is suffering from any type of pain. A lot of people who become narcissistic usually experience painful events during their childhood that eventually lead to their constant need to seek validation. One thing that can be said about the narcissist is that they constantly try to seek validation from other people. So, just how toxic is the attraction between an empath and a narcissist? For the Empath – extremely! The Toxic Attraction Between An Empath And A Narcissist